Our life is a little crazy right now. My husband is working full-time, getting his ThM (basically a half PhD) and picked up some extra hours of work as well. I am working at home with our needy baby & dog baby – we have a 100 year old house that has a laundry list of repairs at any given time…you get the picture.
I also know that I’m not alone in the craziness. I bet that you’re also pretty crazy busy right now. I’m slowly realizing that this is life!
When we were first married, I’d come home from working a 50-60ish hour week at my teaching job, and be exhausted. We would veg out in front of a movie and eat pizza. It was glorious. If we were feeling particularly energetic, we’d go out for dinner. I know, we lived such a wild life.
Gone are those newlywed days and the date nights/afternoons/mornings we took for granted. Sometimes, I feel like we’re barely connecting during the week, and then we try to cram in so many activities during the weekend- we’re exhausted by the time the next week is starting!
I have been feeling really convicted about this lately. I am going to challenge myself – and YOU- to stop making excuses about date time with your spouse.
Lately, those have been our big excuses. Enough was enough – I decided to invite my husband to a frozen pizza date night. It might not sound like much, but he told me he was so excited to see this peeking out of his work bag in the morning:
Adding this little invitation lets him know that it was planned – and I think that meant a lot to him. Of course you can just pick up a pizza and surprise your husband, but this just makes it a little sweeter
Once you figure out when you’re going to plan your date night, you’ll need to get the pizza! If you’re on a budget (like me) you’ll be glad to know that there’s a coupon for Tony’s Pizza (find it at WalMart- we almost ate it in the store!). I told you I was getting into couponing- so having one just made the night even sweeter.
I usually prepare meals on weeknights – it was SO NICE to be able to stick these in the oven and not have to worry about a lot of prep time or cleanup. Exactly what I needed on a Friday evening!
I’ll be honest – I wanted to have a really cute set-up ready for my husband when he got home- and I wanted to take all of these cute pictures for you guys – but the day got away from me (as it usually does with a newly mobile baby) and my husband came home to find me (unshowered) in sweats, and a messy house. The last thing I felt like doing was having a “date night”. BUT remember those pesky convictions? Yeah.
So I put on some mascara, heated up the oven, and lit a candle to disguise the poopy diaper smell from the diaper pail. We sat in front of the TV and ate pizza in front of a movie. We were surrounded by boxes for our yard sale the next morning – and I didn’t even care. Thankfully you guys didn’t seem to mind when I shared it on Instagram:
We needed that. Just to sit, recharge a little together, and just stop running for a little bit.
So I’m challenging myself – and YOU – to take some time and designate is as “no excuses date time”. Use the hashtag on social media – I’d love to see how you’re getting creative with knocking out those excuses!!
I’ve made your date night in even simpler – here’s a free printable for you to stick somewhere that your husband will find. I can guarantee he’ll appreciate that you were thinking about him!